I have been called many things

What if the identity you've been living isn't the one you consciously chose?

Chatterbox. Shy. Ugly. Nerd.
Crazy. Egoist. Courageous.
Leader. Inspirational. Wise.
Bitch. Unlovable. Plump.
Role model. Guru.
Heretic. Beautiful. Ordinary.

For years, I collected these names - like wounds or trophies, depending on the day.

Then something shifted….

I stopped asking “Why do people see me this way?”

And started asking “What might I be projecting that they’re reflecting back?”

That's the brutal way deep coaching cracks things open. Because the truth is:

You don't get the identity you want.

You live from the identity that’s running you.

Beneath every label others put on you is a pattern. A belief system quietly authoring how you show up - long before you consciously choose it. The reactive identities - the ones built on fear, proving, protecting - don’t disappear. They just go underground. And they keep projecting. Loudly.

The shift isn’t about becoming someone else.

It's about finally recognising who you've been being - and choosing, with full awareness, who you want to be.

Not the role.
Not the mask.
Not the collection of opinions and names others placed on you.

You.

Looking back, I can see how - in different moments - I was projecting all those identities. Every single one of them. So people made the match with what I was putting out.

The question that changed everything wasn’t:
“Who am I?”

It was:
“Who would I love to be?”

Seriously. Stop. Take a moment. Here's my question for you: What identity are you living out right now?